On Marriage and Statistics
I was on the subway thinking how I was going to begin this blog. Yes, I always have a subject in mind when I want to write before I write, and this time I need an opening for this blog. So while I was deep in my thoughts, suddenly someone was talking very loudly and very excitedly.
Yes, girl with black and beige striped top with braces. Why would Ashley f*ck Matt? Maybe because she wanted to? Or maybe just because he's attractive? Does that make him f*cktractive (the antonym is fugly)?
Okay, perhaps I shall seek answers to this question, and what better place to find out more about this social bizarro conundrum by watching a movie? Namely, I "procured in a semi-legit fashion with loads of grey areas" the movie School For Scoundrels and proceeded to learn all I could about the human courtship.
I always wanted to watch that movie because there was this one part where Dr. P asks, "How many of you retards own self-help books? That's the first problem. You can't help yourselves because yourselves suck."
So the first lesson on human courtship is if you need help, the last place you should get it from is a self-help book. So apparently this movie did have something to teach. And so the movie went on to teach how to pick up chicks. These are the following gems:
- Be Dangerous. It's cool.
- No Compliments, Ever.
- Always Get The Girl Alone.
- Wherever You Are, The Place Is Lame.
- Relate To Her.
- Lie, Lie And Lie Some More.
Apparently these are the necessary steps to getting a girl. And honestly, it sounds really plausible with sufficient explanation. For example, never compliment a girl, it just means you're out of things to say and you're just a boring person. And the lying part? As Dr. Gregory House would say, all relationships are based on lies, and this is just an excellent way to start a relationship. Dr. P says in the movie, keep on lying until you have something real to offer her. Pretty much, in short if you're such a lame loser, you got to lie your way into a relationship.
Wait, this is starting to sound like the interview process to me.
Anyway, with this in mind, perhaps this sort of explains how one human being becomes attracted to another. But then again, this feels too vague. After all, one can only be so smooth and after that, other factors start to come into play. So I guess I shall refer now to this scholastic article I was reading, entitled: What Makes You Click? Mate Preference and Matching Outcomes in Online Dating by Gunther J. Hitsch, Ali Hortacsu and Dan Ariely.
Basically the methodology is set up an online dating site, collect information and see how people respond to various profiles. Most of the results are based on the first-email premises, meaning that they determined that a person is attracted to another if an email correspondence is sent. So with this in mind, and note that the authors are from University of Chicago and MIT, this isn't just some lame article written by FHM.
This article is awesome in that it gives actual numbers, but everything has to be taken with a pinch of salt. For all I know, they could have just written this based on stereotypes. After all, this article just seems to reinforce a lot of stereotypes.
The first thing that struck me is that based on the data collected, the participants are taller than average, and thinner than average. Now, what does this mean? The average height of all the participants are taller than the average of the locale they were in. The average weight of the participants is less than the average of the local they were in. Hmm... I'm not saying that they're lying, but... whatever you like to infer from that piece of information. Now these data is also split by gender, and while the average men weight deviate from 2-5lb off their population average, the average weight of women deviate from 5lb to 23lb from their population average. *cough*
Again take that with a pinch of salt, after all, these 22,000 participants might be the thinner, taller and more attractive people of the general population and short and fat people don't resort to online dating. Or then again, maybe women understand the concept of weight as, "What's the lightest weight you've ever been since in college?"
Note, there is not yet any statistical brick-brack in here, it's merely pure data. They didn't write the standard deviations for the weight, but if you tell me that women age 50-59 on average weigh 23lb less than the similarly aged populace, I'm gonna say that's at least three standard deviations away from the expected mean. In simple language, that's a 0.03% chance of sampling a random population with that sort of mean. Hmm... highly unlikely.
Damn, I love statistics. But on to the more fun part. Now, I quote, "women who are 'seeking an occasional lover/casual relationship' receive 17% more first contact emails relative to baseline, while men experience a 41% penalty."
Again, I'm not saying that men are looking for casual relationships and women are looking for long term relationships. But if you're a guy, basically, stating that you're looking for a long term relationship, rather than just looking for friends, or lovers, or casual relationship would increase your chances of finding someone.
Now on to more interesting stuff, women prefer men who are tall, about 6'3 to 6'4, while men prefer women between 5'3 to 5'8. Any taller than that, women start to suffer a penalty and their hits become less. And yes, weight does play a significant role. There apparently is an optimum body-mass-index for people to find attractive, and so, to quickly summarise, the optimal BMI for men is 27. This means that a man is slightly overweight according to the BMI scale, but again this could mean that women want a chunkier, muscular guy. For women, the optimal BMI is 17! Seventeen! This is borderline aneroxic. And remember recently in Milan, there was a law passed that women with BMI less than 18 cannot be allowed on the catwalk. So that's basically what a BMI of 17 means! So chicks kinda really have it a bit more difficult than guys.
As for professionwise, for men, there is a strong preference for lawyers, followed by firefighters, then military, then finally those in the medical profession (hint: this definite does not mean nurses). So, pretty much, a man in uniform is better off than a doctor in scrubs. I wonder where does the UPS guy stand then?
For women, it's a bit tougher. Men don't really care what profession you're in, as long as you're hot, and strangely all women in different professions get less responses than women who are college students. Hmm... again, somehow, I am reminded by a certain commercial of a certain DVD of a certain Girls Gone Wild. I wonder if that has anything to do with this.
Okay, here comes the most interesting part. The part of attractiveness. Basically the guys who did this study are economists, and they'd like to measure things in terms of money. So how do you measure attractiveness in terms of money? With all things held constant, they tried to see what level of income a guy must have to compensate for his poor looks to get as much response from a good looking guy.
Here, on a scale of 1 to 10, if you're ranked 1, to get the same kind of attractiveness as a guy ranked 10, you must earn $186,000 more annual income than him.
What does this mean? Granted that stud is earning say $60,000 a year, an ugly guy must earn $246,000 a year to garner that same sort of attractiveness that he has. So in short, money does really make a man more attracive. Yes, you women are gold-diggers! We have empirical evidence! Okay, I mean, I need to make approximately $186,000 a year so that I'd be more attractive than that homeless guy sitting on the corner of my block so that I'd be more attractive to a chick. See? If you think that that is unfair, and that I've mistakenly stereotyped girls, look, I'm just saying, it's the data that's speaking. Money does make a guy look more attractive.
However, for women it's all different. It's not possible for a woman to earn more money to compensate for her less-than-average looks. The data shows that it's not feasible, that income has no effect on making a woman receive more first email contacts. It just doesn't work. And I sort of feel sad for women because there's nothing they can do short of plastic surgery to make them more attractive. But then again, who wants to work hard, go through 8 years of college, graduate with PhD and slave away for the rest of their lives just to muster enough money to attract that hot chick, when a simple $5k boob job would do to attract a guy?
But finally, the article comes to the study on ethnicity, and okay, the pool is divided into Caucasians, African-Americans, Hispanics and Asians. There's a preference for heterogeneity. Meaning, that if you're Caucasian, you'll definitely prefer Caucasians, and ONLY with a significant rise in income would a woman overlook the ethnicity of a man that she will date him.
Okay, now this makes all women seem like gold-diggers, but we'd like to measure everything in terms of income because that is a number that we all can understand, rather than some arbitrary measure of "good-looking" or "average-looking".
To show some of the numbers, when given a choice between two similar men, one Caucasian and one Hispanic, the Caucasian woman would prefer the Caucasian man, unless the Hispanic man earns about $77,000 more in annual income than the Caucasian man. Now, these are just averages. Now to point out the outrageous discrepencies which I feel are a grave injustice to Asian males. White women, clearly prefer Asian guys least, as an Asian man has to earn about $247,000 MORE than their Caucasian counterpart in annual income before she would be indifferent.
That means that I have to be like in the top 10% of income earners, to even date a white chick. And don't even get me started on dating an Asian chick. Look, as cute as they are, the numbers show something even more devastating. While white women prefer white men, and black women prefer black men and Hispanic women prefer Hispanic men, the only sole oddity is that Asian women prefer white men ABOVE Asian men!
Oh the betrayal! The heartache. Even back home, I don't even have a homeground advantage in asking an Asian chick out! What the hell? She'd rather date some scruffy white dude over me???
Asian women would date a similar white guy, who earns $24k less in annual income than a similar Asian guy. So... apparently, I must be missing something here. I feel that it's kinda ridiculous. And I guess that's the way the cards have been dealt. So totaling up my expected annual income, to compensate for my height, weight, looks and ethnicity, to date a white chick, I must earn about $596,000 more annually than a good looking white dude. $596,000 annually???!?! That's the price of being born how I look, that's the price of genetics. Wow, I'm appalled. So, this means I need to earn about $619,000 a year, so that a white chick would prefer me over a McDonald's drive-thru employee. Yes! That's what this means! Wow, the difference is appalling.
I guess this also means I should not get my hopes up of finding a girlfriend, and in short, even if I were the last guy on this planet, I guess I still need to be earning at least a six-digit salary with any hopes of getting laid.
I've basically summarised the interesting parts of this study, and there are also other more technical things, like for the binary logit regression, the R-squared statistics for looks for women is about 0.30, while for looks for men is about 0.18. If you have no clue what R-squared means, just ignore this, but take away that looks is a better determinant of whether someone will contact you online, rather than your income or career. In fact, those are really marginal in this analysis. So you got to be good-looking to survive in life.
I was reading another economics junk book, you know those like Freakonomics and they sort of came to the conclusion that taller people seem to make more people than shorter people. They came to the conclusion that for every inch taller that you are, you earn approximately $1,000 more in annual salary. So apparently there might be some correlation here, after all, someone once told me, if you can pick up a chick at a bar, you can ace an interview. The same skills and factors might be called into consideration here, and I don't really doubt it, that attractiveness counts in looking for a partner or a job.
So that's a lot to take into, I mean, look, succeeding in life kinda depends a lot on your physical attributes, and I'm sorry that if you don't have any, like me, you better be earning hella a lot of money.
"Ashley f*cked Matt! She f*cked Matt! Now why would she do that? Why did she do that?"
Yes, girl with black and beige striped top with braces. Why would Ashley f*ck Matt? Maybe because she wanted to? Or maybe just because he's attractive? Does that make him f*cktractive (the antonym is fugly)?
Okay, perhaps I shall seek answers to this question, and what better place to find out more about this social bizarro conundrum by watching a movie? Namely, I "procured in a semi-legit fashion with loads of grey areas" the movie School For Scoundrels and proceeded to learn all I could about the human courtship.
I always wanted to watch that movie because there was this one part where Dr. P asks, "How many of you retards own self-help books? That's the first problem. You can't help yourselves because yourselves suck."
So the first lesson on human courtship is if you need help, the last place you should get it from is a self-help book. So apparently this movie did have something to teach. And so the movie went on to teach how to pick up chicks. These are the following gems:
- Be Dangerous. It's cool.
- No Compliments, Ever.
- Always Get The Girl Alone.
- Wherever You Are, The Place Is Lame.
- Relate To Her.
- Lie, Lie And Lie Some More.
Apparently these are the necessary steps to getting a girl. And honestly, it sounds really plausible with sufficient explanation. For example, never compliment a girl, it just means you're out of things to say and you're just a boring person. And the lying part? As Dr. Gregory House would say, all relationships are based on lies, and this is just an excellent way to start a relationship. Dr. P says in the movie, keep on lying until you have something real to offer her. Pretty much, in short if you're such a lame loser, you got to lie your way into a relationship.
Wait, this is starting to sound like the interview process to me.
Anyway, with this in mind, perhaps this sort of explains how one human being becomes attracted to another. But then again, this feels too vague. After all, one can only be so smooth and after that, other factors start to come into play. So I guess I shall refer now to this scholastic article I was reading, entitled: What Makes You Click? Mate Preference and Matching Outcomes in Online Dating by Gunther J. Hitsch, Ali Hortacsu and Dan Ariely.
Basically the methodology is set up an online dating site, collect information and see how people respond to various profiles. Most of the results are based on the first-email premises, meaning that they determined that a person is attracted to another if an email correspondence is sent. So with this in mind, and note that the authors are from University of Chicago and MIT, this isn't just some lame article written by FHM.
This article is awesome in that it gives actual numbers, but everything has to be taken with a pinch of salt. For all I know, they could have just written this based on stereotypes. After all, this article just seems to reinforce a lot of stereotypes.
The first thing that struck me is that based on the data collected, the participants are taller than average, and thinner than average. Now, what does this mean? The average height of all the participants are taller than the average of the locale they were in. The average weight of the participants is less than the average of the local they were in. Hmm... I'm not saying that they're lying, but... whatever you like to infer from that piece of information. Now these data is also split by gender, and while the average men weight deviate from 2-5lb off their population average, the average weight of women deviate from 5lb to 23lb from their population average. *cough*
Again take that with a pinch of salt, after all, these 22,000 participants might be the thinner, taller and more attractive people of the general population and short and fat people don't resort to online dating. Or then again, maybe women understand the concept of weight as, "What's the lightest weight you've ever been since in college?"
Note, there is not yet any statistical brick-brack in here, it's merely pure data. They didn't write the standard deviations for the weight, but if you tell me that women age 50-59 on average weigh 23lb less than the similarly aged populace, I'm gonna say that's at least three standard deviations away from the expected mean. In simple language, that's a 0.03% chance of sampling a random population with that sort of mean. Hmm... highly unlikely.
Damn, I love statistics. But on to the more fun part. Now, I quote, "women who are 'seeking an occasional lover/casual relationship' receive 17% more first contact emails relative to baseline, while men experience a 41% penalty."
Again, I'm not saying that men are looking for casual relationships and women are looking for long term relationships. But if you're a guy, basically, stating that you're looking for a long term relationship, rather than just looking for friends, or lovers, or casual relationship would increase your chances of finding someone.
Now on to more interesting stuff, women prefer men who are tall, about 6'3 to 6'4, while men prefer women between 5'3 to 5'8. Any taller than that, women start to suffer a penalty and their hits become less. And yes, weight does play a significant role. There apparently is an optimum body-mass-index for people to find attractive, and so, to quickly summarise, the optimal BMI for men is 27. This means that a man is slightly overweight according to the BMI scale, but again this could mean that women want a chunkier, muscular guy. For women, the optimal BMI is 17! Seventeen! This is borderline aneroxic. And remember recently in Milan, there was a law passed that women with BMI less than 18 cannot be allowed on the catwalk. So that's basically what a BMI of 17 means! So chicks kinda really have it a bit more difficult than guys.
As for professionwise, for men, there is a strong preference for lawyers, followed by firefighters, then military, then finally those in the medical profession (hint: this definite does not mean nurses). So, pretty much, a man in uniform is better off than a doctor in scrubs. I wonder where does the UPS guy stand then?
For women, it's a bit tougher. Men don't really care what profession you're in, as long as you're hot, and strangely all women in different professions get less responses than women who are college students. Hmm... again, somehow, I am reminded by a certain commercial of a certain DVD of a certain Girls Gone Wild. I wonder if that has anything to do with this.
Okay, here comes the most interesting part. The part of attractiveness. Basically the guys who did this study are economists, and they'd like to measure things in terms of money. So how do you measure attractiveness in terms of money? With all things held constant, they tried to see what level of income a guy must have to compensate for his poor looks to get as much response from a good looking guy.
Here, on a scale of 1 to 10, if you're ranked 1, to get the same kind of attractiveness as a guy ranked 10, you must earn $186,000 more annual income than him.
What does this mean? Granted that stud is earning say $60,000 a year, an ugly guy must earn $246,000 a year to garner that same sort of attractiveness that he has. So in short, money does really make a man more attracive. Yes, you women are gold-diggers! We have empirical evidence! Okay, I mean, I need to make approximately $186,000 a year so that I'd be more attractive than that homeless guy sitting on the corner of my block so that I'd be more attractive to a chick. See? If you think that that is unfair, and that I've mistakenly stereotyped girls, look, I'm just saying, it's the data that's speaking. Money does make a guy look more attractive.
However, for women it's all different. It's not possible for a woman to earn more money to compensate for her less-than-average looks. The data shows that it's not feasible, that income has no effect on making a woman receive more first email contacts. It just doesn't work. And I sort of feel sad for women because there's nothing they can do short of plastic surgery to make them more attractive. But then again, who wants to work hard, go through 8 years of college, graduate with PhD and slave away for the rest of their lives just to muster enough money to attract that hot chick, when a simple $5k boob job would do to attract a guy?
But finally, the article comes to the study on ethnicity, and okay, the pool is divided into Caucasians, African-Americans, Hispanics and Asians. There's a preference for heterogeneity. Meaning, that if you're Caucasian, you'll definitely prefer Caucasians, and ONLY with a significant rise in income would a woman overlook the ethnicity of a man that she will date him.
Okay, now this makes all women seem like gold-diggers, but we'd like to measure everything in terms of income because that is a number that we all can understand, rather than some arbitrary measure of "good-looking" or "average-looking".
To show some of the numbers, when given a choice between two similar men, one Caucasian and one Hispanic, the Caucasian woman would prefer the Caucasian man, unless the Hispanic man earns about $77,000 more in annual income than the Caucasian man. Now, these are just averages. Now to point out the outrageous discrepencies which I feel are a grave injustice to Asian males. White women, clearly prefer Asian guys least, as an Asian man has to earn about $247,000 MORE than their Caucasian counterpart in annual income before she would be indifferent.
That means that I have to be like in the top 10% of income earners, to even date a white chick. And don't even get me started on dating an Asian chick. Look, as cute as they are, the numbers show something even more devastating. While white women prefer white men, and black women prefer black men and Hispanic women prefer Hispanic men, the only sole oddity is that Asian women prefer white men ABOVE Asian men!
Oh the betrayal! The heartache. Even back home, I don't even have a homeground advantage in asking an Asian chick out! What the hell? She'd rather date some scruffy white dude over me???
Asian women would date a similar white guy, who earns $24k less in annual income than a similar Asian guy. So... apparently, I must be missing something here. I feel that it's kinda ridiculous. And I guess that's the way the cards have been dealt. So totaling up my expected annual income, to compensate for my height, weight, looks and ethnicity, to date a white chick, I must earn about $596,000 more annually than a good looking white dude. $596,000 annually???!?! That's the price of being born how I look, that's the price of genetics. Wow, I'm appalled. So, this means I need to earn about $619,000 a year, so that a white chick would prefer me over a McDonald's drive-thru employee. Yes! That's what this means! Wow, the difference is appalling.
I guess this also means I should not get my hopes up of finding a girlfriend, and in short, even if I were the last guy on this planet, I guess I still need to be earning at least a six-digit salary with any hopes of getting laid.
I've basically summarised the interesting parts of this study, and there are also other more technical things, like for the binary logit regression, the R-squared statistics for looks for women is about 0.30, while for looks for men is about 0.18. If you have no clue what R-squared means, just ignore this, but take away that looks is a better determinant of whether someone will contact you online, rather than your income or career. In fact, those are really marginal in this analysis. So you got to be good-looking to survive in life.
I was reading another economics junk book, you know those like Freakonomics and they sort of came to the conclusion that taller people seem to make more people than shorter people. They came to the conclusion that for every inch taller that you are, you earn approximately $1,000 more in annual salary. So apparently there might be some correlation here, after all, someone once told me, if you can pick up a chick at a bar, you can ace an interview. The same skills and factors might be called into consideration here, and I don't really doubt it, that attractiveness counts in looking for a partner or a job.
So that's a lot to take into, I mean, look, succeeding in life kinda depends a lot on your physical attributes, and I'm sorry that if you don't have any, like me, you better be earning hella a lot of money.